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Does it get any better for those of you with an ex on the dance floor? :[
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I introduced my then gf to the scene. Our breakup was a bit tumultuous to say the least.
I've sought for help in other subs, but I think I'll get better answers here. I'd want to hear some of your leads, follows/ladies' experiences.
I don't ever regret telling her about social dancing, it's definitely a great scene far from just club dancing. When I watch her dance, I feel a lot of things that I simply can't process just yet. But I know one of them is happiness. Guys, leads who have exes in the dance floor, what were this emotions? I admit that I have some jealousy, but I think mine is more a desire to at least talk to her about dance techniques.
I'm happy that she can find joy and maybe even healing here. I would speak to her but she remained spiteful, angry, mad. For example, she accused me of being responsible for the spam emails I "supposedly" sent following our breakup. For the record, I have no desire to harm her or bombard her with spam. I stuck to the no-contact-with-ex rule. She has my respect, so I won't waste it. I would only see her on the dance floors.
At first, she might have just been doing these things just to spite me. She did have a habit (and I guess it's her personality) of telling the ladies I danced with how horrible & much of an asshole I am, yes, right on the dance floor.
Her close positions would be actual "hugs", skin to skin, with leads. And her legs are always "in between" his. She'd also let the leads come touch foreheads, full face to face, on sensual bachata. Then I'd see her trace a lead's face with her fingers after a dance, the lead at that moment looked uncomfortable. The man who she was on a full on hug-close position is also actually married.. And would then dance the next song in complete open position after he noticed me taking a quick look. Now these are all damn sexy and beautiful (except from her face touching & the married guy) but from a technical point of view, I don't think this has any benefit? Unless if this was tango? Ladies, how often do you get the forehead, face to face close position? How much of these do you think were just acts to spite me?
She says she likes going to steven's (a place I introduced her in LA) because it was more affectionate. They have a great sensual bachata community, but I've also had followers/ladies tell me some alarming, quite horrifying stories. One is about how guys would approach them, dip them, and get near before "forcing" a kiss when brought up. From another lady friend, the lead moved her hand to his hard-on. On the other hand, I've had female friends also tell me that they don't quite mind when some leads would be "grindy", said they'd ofcourse feel hard-ons. I do get my fair share of skin-to-skin, hug-close position follows, which can be challenging & sort of just bad for technique and prose. And yeah, it can be fun, even promiscuous but more or less also generally uncomfortable.
I spent half a year in a technical school and then moved to a studio, I grew up loving cha-cha, moved to salsa and other latin dances. So my background was a bit more on the studious side. She loved sensual bachata, I very much love salsa, mambo, rumba, cha-cha. But I do love sensual bachata and know how fun it can be.
I'm aware that worrying about all of those things is a waste. Who am I to her? I'm a stranger no less. I still wish I could have told her more. But it would just be disrespectful to her because I'm not her guardian or SO any longer. I hope she knows how to navigate. And if she was doing those things to spite me, there are a lot of thirsty men, and I'm aware that most ladies go out on their own. Men occasionally even follow them into the parking lot. While we were on our break-up process, she'd tell me how men would continually text her, ask her to go out, go to the beach, she'd send me screenshots of it. It's just the nature of nightlife. Even if it's primarily in a social dance context. I honestly don't care whether she hooks up, but I am a little concerned because if she adopts the hook-up culture, she will likely be doing the identical things that caused us to break up because she wants a committed relationship.
I went with dance, I chose dance. But we did at least dance once (sensual bachata), but I kept my space, did my rolls and dips without having to full-on hug her because I knew I had more pose. I desired to because it's the least respect I can give, and always try to give to any woman.
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Ladies, it's hard for me to comprehend. What goes on in your mind when you're on a full on, hug-close position? Do you ladies feel the "private" on your lead legs? I know most would separate but to those who don't, is it just because the dance chemistry is lit? I'd love how most of us would just say bye after such an intimate dance btw lol especially in bachata
Guys who have exes in the dance floor, what were your emotions? What are some things that helped you cope or accept, or deconstruct these emotions for rational conclusions? At first, I find it difficult to be sharing a dance floor with her, now I'm just more or less in awe because I think a part of her, truly just want to get better & dance.
I've never experienced this. Seeing someone I spent a lot of time with, be super intimate with randoms or even coaches, & close friends. At the same time, I can't leave or go anywhere, social dance is a scene that I love. What's the answer here, what's the end game here?
Top Comment: Okay, so first of all, you're obviously hurt, and I'm not really sure this sub is appropriate for this question, if for nothing else because you're primarily asking about Bachata. But you're also not quite thinking clearly (you say some things that don't make any sense) so maybe it would help you to point it out to you, but worse, you're very strongly imposing your cultural values around physical touch upon *everybody*. You seem like one of those people that's made uncomfortable by the closeness of bachata, seem to have convinced yourself that "real" bachata is not close (bachata is many things, and many cultures and people dance it very very closely), and you're also reading a ton of sexual meaning into a sensual dance. In short, intimacy in a continuum and hugging someone or cuddling with someone, while intimate, does not necessarily mean sex or relationship or anything at all! I know professionals who dance together like that for show and don't even like each other. Here we go. > I admit that I have some jealousy, but I think mine is more a desire to at least talk to her about dance techniques. Doesn't strike me as totally honest with yourself here. "I'm not jealous of my ex girlfriend rubbing up on men, I just want to talk to her about the perfect level of rigidity of frame during palm-to-palm handhold and to what extent the lead should accompany the follow during a body wave in a cuddle position." My man com'on. > Her close positions would be actual "hugs", skin to skin, with leads. And her legs are always "in between" his. She'd also let the leads come touch foreheads, full face to face, on sensual bachata. Then I'd see her trace a lead's face with her fingers after a dance, the lead at that moment looked uncomfortable. So what tho? Like what business is it of yours except that you just realizing that your ex likes to dance close? > I don't think this has any benefit? Bro what do you mean, people are dancing, they're allowed to be intimate if they want. What "benefit"? It's an art, not a financial reorganization. > How much of these do you think were just acts to spite me? Maybe a lot? Maybe she's cruel and you took too long to notice. Maybe it's not at all, maybe she just likes dancing really close and is a cuddly person. Maybe she's got a high libido. How would we know? > Who am I to her? I'm a stranger no less. You are her exboyfriend, not a stranger. > I went with dance, I chose dance. But we did at least dance once (sensual bachata), but I kept my space, did my rolls and dips without having to full-on hug her because I knew I had more pose. I desired to because it's the least respect I can give, and always try to give to any woman. You chose not to dance closely with someone and you are somehow confounding that with you "respecting" them. People hug, dance closely, cuddle, hookup, or don't, all of these things, all the time, and the amount of respect involved is a completely separate issue. Like, you kept your space from your girlfriend, and she clearly likes dancing close! Did someone convince you that touching women is bad? It's about consent man. >Ladies, it's hard for me to comprehend. What goes on in your mind when you're on a full on, hug-close position? Every woman is different? Contexts like culture and relationship matter. Some people are horny, some people are cuddly, some just wanna look sexy, some people are reserved. This should be intuitive.
Is there actually an extended dance scene in Ex Machina on the DVD?
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If there is, is it on the internet?
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C'MON CALEB
Selling L-TEK Dance mat EX PRO + The Handbar (with start and select button) - used once - works great - Northern NJ $350
Main Post: Selling L-TEK Dance mat EX PRO + The Handbar (with start and select button) - used once - works great - Northern NJ $350
Scottie Pippen, more ex-Bulls to address Michael Jordan beef, 'Last Dance' drama on 'No Bull' tour
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Top Comment: Sounds like a nonstop Scottie pippen bender is brewing
Dance mat LTEK EX PRO 2 and Dance mat LTEK EX PRO X and controller Real polling rate 1000Hz (timing 1msec)
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Thanks maty-taneczne.pl and Tomasz Tadeusz Krupnik
hi everyone,
as you can see from the following images the company sent me the new controls for the pad, photo 1 has the current firmware that many of you have supplied on the new ex Pro 2 and X pads, where the recent data cases of ghosting revived on various forums my advice is to connect the pad to USB 2.0 where the ghosting problem is almost nil if not even non-existent, while photo 2 has the firmware modified to verify the actual compatibility with the latest generation USB ports such as 3.0 -3.1 and 3.2 that I myself have on my pc configuration the tests will be carried out on these two hardware configurations: CPU i7 4970k, RAM 32gb xyperyx Fury, dedicated 4gb 980 GPU, motherboard z97m (PC model presammblato Asus rog g30ak for accuracy), second PC with this configuration: CPU i9 11900k, RAM xyperyx Fury rgb 64gb from 3600mhz, GPU 3090 rog strix oc, motherboard, rog maximum Hero XIII, assembled by me, with these two configurations of computer it will be my concern to give you all the information you need to make the most of the latest dance pads released with the new 1000hz polling cards that are inserted into the pads, currently I remember and confirm that the current versions must be connected to USB 2.0 as well as the versions of the pad for correct operation and not to run into the ghosting problem encountered
https://www.maty-taneczne.pl/shop/dance-mat-ltek-ex-pro-2/
https://www.maty-taneczne.pl/shop/dance-mat-ltek-ex-pro-x/
controller Real polling rate 1000Hz (timing 1msec
https://www.maty-taneczne.pl/shop/usb-controller-upgrade/
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So when I asked L-Tek about this issue today, they told me that the issue has been fixed with modified firmware and that all pads going out with that new controller should work fine in all USB ports.
[WR] Dance Dance Revolution Mario Mix- Story Mode EX Very Hard in 58:11
Main Post: [WR] Dance Dance Revolution Mario Mix- Story Mode EX Very Hard in 58:11
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Yeah as an avid rhythm game player I feel like speed running rhythm games is kinda meh. It would be cooler to just count non-perfects. Obviously aiming for lower count. But cool stuff regardless.